Tuesday 31 December 2019

We are the World Blogfest # 32: You Raise Me Up – supporting families after the loss of a young adult …


Any loss of life will affect all ‘near and dears’ … here the local charity You Raise Me Up offers a support centre in Polegate and Eastbourne, for families who have suddenly lost a young adult …

 
Coffee Shop and Support Centre
Grieving is just devastating … so any specific support available may help others adjust – there’s a listener. 



The young adult age group (age 16 – 25) wasn’t represented … compassion and understanding come from fellow sufferers …


Offering Counselling
This family then, a few years later, had another blow … very sadly the mother died from cancer … 


... but despite the sadness the other counsellors were available to families in need.



A friend recently said his daughter had lost her husband (in his early forties) in August … but she was struggling to come to terms with his loss and the suddenness of it.

 
Listening  (1882)
William-Adolphe Bouguereau
Her father was obviously struggling too … so I suggested he should get some counselling – he said he hadn’t thought about it for himself …


… but when he’d lost his wife about ten years ago – the counselling really helped: I think he was relieved … as it would ease the stress and anxiety he was feeling about his daughter and her two grandchildren.


We all need guidance, help, compassion and counselling at various times in our lives ...


This charity reminded me of many things and I’m glad to know it’s local … this year too for so many reasons we will all need raising up …


… we will need to listen as we help others …



"In Darkness, Be Light ..."

New Year post coming tomorrow …


Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories

19 comments:

Jo said...

Sounds like a good charity Hilary. Not heard of anything similar round here, but I agree, people in similar situations or with similar experiences are great to meet - found this with Alzheimer's.

Happy New Year

Elephant's Child said...

It sounds like a most excellent (and sorely needed) charity.
Compassion, like kindness is always welcome.

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David M. Gascoigne, said...

Hello Hilary: One cannot but say that this seems to be a much needed charity that deals with an area of the human condition seldom tackled elsewhere. Thanks for bringing it to our attention. All the best for 2020. David

Liz A. said...

Sudden and unexpected death are hard. So are expected deaths... Good to have somewhere to go for help.

Sue Bursztynski said...

Oh, that is sad! Sounds like a worthwhile charity.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Most charities are good and do good just like this one.
All deaths are hard and sad

Fil said...

Sounds like a brilliant charity Hilary - local charities have so much to offer.
Wishing you a wonderful new year and I look forward to reading many more fascinating posts from you in the coming 12 months xx

Hels said...

We really do need guidance, compassion and counselling at various times in our lives. I turned to the lawyers and hospital after my brilliant mother died tragically five years ago, and although the lawyers etc were helpful, they had no counselling skills at all.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

@ Jo - I'm glad I've highlighted it here for them ... it seems a particular age group of young parents, who will need help - we're not taught how to cope with so, so many things in life ... some early general guidance would be helpful.

I'm sure you've found help with your Alzheimer's group ... it's the support, understanding and companionship you've been able to have at a time when one is desperate ... so pleased it's helping you ...

@ EC - yes - you're right - there are so many 'niche' areas where we can help, or where help is needed ... at some stage I must find out more about the charity... Yes compassion, like kindness is always welcome ... you're right ...

@ Sandie - thank you for the clever message ...

@ David - I know I tend to assume so much ... so I was surprised to find out about this charity - then realised how essential it must be - as it hadn't occurred to me that there needed to be a specific charity - eye opening it has been.

@ Liz - yes any death is very difficult to deal with ... but I hadn't ever thought about particular age groups ... and how there will inevitably be differences in needs - I'm glad I learnt.

@ Sue - yes just desperate ... but the charity is proving its worth and helping local bereaved parents, relations, friends ...

@ Jo-Anne - I know charities really do help and offer support in times of need. Death of a loved one is always too sad.

@ Fil - thanks ... and you're right local charities do have much to offer.

Thank you for your thoughts re my 'fascinating' posts ... they'll keep coming along ...

@ Hels - you are so right ... I wish I'd had more ... guidance, compassion and counselling just so essential.

I sort of had a similar experience to that which you had with your mother ... nothing as serious - so I do understand what you must have gone through ... just desperate for you: and one never comes to terms with any of it ... I feel for you ...

Thank you everyone for coming by and for caring for others - all the very best, Hilary

Vallypee said...

Good thoughts to take into the new year, Hilary. I hope your 2020 brings you only good things, however! Happy new year!

Anabel Marsh said...

Excellent charity - something everyone hopes they never need but will be glad of if they do. All the best for 2020, Hilary. Keep those positive thoughts coming!

Dan said...

That sounds like a good charity - Happy New Year, Hilary.

Jacqui said...

This sounds like a wonderful charity, Hilary. I don't know how I'd survive the loss of my children--my young adults. I probably wouldn't want to. Thanks for sharing this.

Lynda Dietz said...

People who are grieving need to know they're not alone. This sounds like a wonderful charity!

quietspirit said...

Hilary: Happy New Year. In our church, we have a lady who is a retired social worker who, from time to time, leads a group of people who have lost someone close to them. Another woman has started a support group for those who have lost someone to violence. This lady had a son who was shot and died from his injury.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

@ Val - I hope people who are suffering can get some relief from their anxiety as the New Year moves on.

@ Anabel - the charity has certainly struck a chord with me ... and the loss of an adult child must be too terrible ... so this organisation seems to have touched the right area of help.

@ Dan - it seems to be touching many hearts ...

@ Jacqui - I know - losing a child must be so terrible ... I understand your thoughts - yet I'm sure we'd turn the tragedy into a positive for others ...

@ Lynda - that phrase you use ... about 'people who are grieving need to know they're not alone'. It's a small charity but so valuable to families who experience this sort of loss ...

@ Alana - interesting to read your notes about the friends in your church, who help others in their times of need. Just too sad ...

Thank you so much for visiting and becoming aware of this charity 'You Raise Me Up' ... the loss of an adult child must be so difficult - also it makes us think of similar situations ...

With thoughts to you all - Hilary

D.G. Kaye said...

A wonderful organization, sadly, well needed in this world. <3

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Thanks Debby - I'm glad I found out a little more about them - they seem to be offering such a worthwhile service - the loss of a child must be devastating ... thank you for commenting - cheers Hilary